Self-improvement
S3 E17: Love Bomb Your Life
In this episode of Girl Stand Up, host Shay explores the concept of 'love bombing' yourself as a powerful tool for self-empowerment and manifestation. She encourages listeners to celebrate t...
S3 E17: Love Bomb Your Life
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Welcome to Girl Stand Up, the podcast where we dive into manifestation, mindset, and designing the luxury life you deserve.
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I'm your host Shay here to help you stand tall in your power, shift yourself concept, and attract abundance with ease.
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So let's get started. Because your dream life is waiting for you to stand up.
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Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode of Girl Stand Up.
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So I still don't have a microphone. So you're going to have to excuse me once again if the audio sounds a little interesting.
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Nevertheless, let's get into it. I just had like this really crazy concept that I recently thought about.
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So lately I have been doing so much nervous system regulation, so much, so much, so much.
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And I have been allowing myself to really expand my capacity for being seen, expanding my capacity for money, expanding my capacity for support, just expanding my capacity, just generally speaking, like in all areas of my life, right?
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And there are so many things that I do when it comes to manifesting and nervous system regulation and all these different things.
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So lately I have been listening to classical music, to kind of calm the nerves and, you know, I learned a lot about Mozart lately.
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Like did anybody here know that his name he went by Wolfgang and more importantly, did anybody else know that depending on which country he was playing in, he decided to change up his name?
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Yeah, so Mozart was just nothing but vibes and you know what, I have to respect it.
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Nothing with vibes, but nevertheless, I recently thought about something.
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You know how we're always saying, oh, we should romanticize our lives or romanticize this romanticize that we hear that so much on the internet, you see it so much on the internet, oh, I'm romanticizing work, I'm romanticizing my relationship, I'm romanticizing working out in this and that and that and that and that and that and that and you're doing it as a way, almost like a way of spiritual bypassing from being honest.
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But I have an even better idea, okay, because romanticizing something kind of feels like you're quote unquote normalizing it and when we have to quote unquote normalize something, usually there's some form of like, how do I explain it?
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Resistance, does that make sense?
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A lot of times when we try to normalize or romanticize something in our lives, there's resistance there to some degree, whatever it's about, even if it's something that we actually do want to normalize more of, right?
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So let's talk about normalizing money.
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If we're normalizing a certain amount of money in our lives, that is because there's resistance there.
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So if you're trying to normalize 10k, 20k, 50k, 100k months, if you are actively trying to normalize it, you are making it known that it is not normal in your life and you have a block there, resistance there, and that's why you're here, right?
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That's why you guys come to me to help you navigate those blocks.
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Nevertheless, instead of romanticizing things, I don't think we should be doing that.
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You know what I think we should be doing? I think we should be love bombing our lives.
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We should be love bombing ourselves. Hold on, let me cook. Let me cook.
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When I say we should be love bombing ourselves, I saw this post earlier today and we were talking about love bombing and somebody was making a comment,
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well, oh, I'm a Gemini and you can't love bombing me because I love bomb right back.
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Like, oh, okay, I love you too. So know what?
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And me being a Gemini myself, I laughed at it and I'm like, well, you know, the thing is love bombing 100% will work on me.
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You want to know why? Because in my world, I'm like, yes, of course you love me. Why wouldn't you? Exactly.
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And yes, I know how full of myself I sound when I say that. But you know what? If you don't love yourself, who else is going to love you? Exactly.
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So why don't we take that same concept and apply it to our own lives? Love bombing ourselves.
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So what does this entail? And why am I using the term love bombing? Okay.
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So when we talk about love bombing, right, usually we're using it in a sense of, you know, we're talking about the dating world, usually a man or a woman, they're showering you with gifts, showering you with compliments,
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showering you with all this attention and all this quote unquote love, right? And then eventually it fades away.
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So I want you to do that with yourself and your life. It's very similar, very similar concept to, you know, celebrating yourself at all times.
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And that's pretty much what I'm getting at here, celebrating yourself at all times. Love bombing yourself, buying yourself flowers, literally just because.
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Love bombing yourself is about being obsessed with yourself in a very healthy way. I'm not saying, obsess over yourself in a self conscious way.
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I'm not saying obsess over yourself in an arrogant way where you think that you're the shiz nae and you're better than the next person. This is not about that.
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This is about understanding your baseline is worthiness. Okay. Because at the end of the day, anything that you are trying to call into your world, it has to start with worthiness.
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So yes, love bomb the shit out of yourself. So what do I mean by that? Go get the flowers. Go get that coffee that you thought that you didn't want from that coffee shop down the street. Go get it.
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I don't care how much it is. Go get it. If you got the money, go get it. Anything that makes you feel good, anything that makes you happy. If you're a girly pop that loves design your handbags and you've been eyeing that new Louis Vuitton, you've been eyeing a Chanel bag.
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And you've been trying to resist trying to tell yourself, listen, I don't need it. Okay. But but like, are you sure you don't need it? Are you sure about that? Go get it.
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If you got it, if the bills are paid, okay, because remember, I'm always about making sure you are being quote unquote responsible. I'm not going to teach you your responsibility.
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But I am going to teach you to celebrate yourself. Go buy yourself the bag. Honestly, you want to know the best part about being an adult when I really thought about it.
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You can go buy yourself a birthday cake. It doesn't have to be birthday, of course. But you could go buy yourself a birthday cake or just a cake in general.
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A whole ass cake and nobody can stop you. You get what I'm saying. We have spent so much of our time being humble, right? As women, we are taught that we should be conservative with ourselves about so many things conservative with our dreams, conservative about our money, conservative about our clothes.
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We should be holding and the way that we present ourselves, we should just be humble and accept whatever it is that we want to accept from the world. No, fuck that. What I'm telling you to do is go out and just be who you are.
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Love on yourself. Like really truly love on yourself. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror every single day and tell yourself how beautiful you are even if you don't feel like you are.
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And you know what? If you have days where you don't feel like you are and you can't muster up the courage to say, you know what? I'm really, really pretty. That's fine. Go back to a photo where you felt beautiful.
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Go back to that. Go find a picture of video, something where you felt beautiful, where you felt happy, where you felt so amazing. Go back to that.
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And I want you to relive that moment in your head over and over and over again because the more that you were reliving these feelings of joy, these feelings of love, these feelings of gratitude and excitement, the more things come into your world that will give you more of that feeling, right? That's what the law of attraction is.
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So love bombing yourself when your baseline is worthiness. All my goodness. You are opening the door to so much.
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It's what we talk about when it comes to lucky girls syndrome, right? Feeling like you're the luckiest girl on earth, feeling like you're the luckiest person on earth. That is what that invites feelings of worthiness, a baseline of worthiness.
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Activates lucky girl syndrome. So yes, go do the thing that you want to do. Seriously, like if you want to go to the spa, go to the spa. If you want to call up a girlfriend and y'all go out to a brunch, go out to brunch.
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And if you want to treat your girlfriend to brunch, do that too because the law of compensation always takes care of you. Okay.
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Nevertheless, I am inviting you through and through to love bomb yourself. And I know how crazy of a concept that might sound.
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But when you're love bombing you, let me tell you what happens when you are pouring so much into yourself, you become unavailable for things that don't match that frequency.
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So for example, right, I have noticed that women who get cosmetic surgery done. All right. So the BBLs, breast implants, facelips of any sort, the women who get cosmetic surgery done, Botox, whatever, things of that nature.
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Those women in my experience tend to not settle for certain things. They tend to treat themselves better, especially the BBL girls. Like here's what I've noticed about the BBL girls.
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A lot of times, and this is what they don't tell you about getting these surgeries done, but you know, it costs a lot of money, right? It costs a lot of money. It's not just the surgery itself. It's the maintenance after rate. It's the boards and the fahas and the massages that you have to get.
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The maintenance that goes on top of that. A lot of these girls, you know what they end up doing. They start elevating their lifestyle. They start going to Pilates, hitting the gym, getting a personal trainer.
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A lot of them start to eat cleaner, whether they consciously realize it or not. A lot of them tend to start to go and enter themselves in places that they would not have gone to before. Why? Because that confidence is up.
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Right? A lot of times we get cosmetic surgery done because yes, it's going to amplify our confidence. And I think you should do anything that amplifies your confidence because life is too fucking short to sit around here and hate the body that you're in and hate your life. You know, I just don't think we should be in a position where we're hating so much of ourselves all the time.
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But anyways, a lot of these women who get cosmetic surgery, that's what they do. They are always doing something to elevate their lifestyle. So what ends up happening with these girls? What I notice, they even date differently.
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Because let's keep it so 100 if you are paying for your own cosmetic surgery. Listen, it's an investment, right? So if you were paying for new boobs, if you were paying for a nicer body, if you were paying for something that's going to cost you thousands of dollars to do, let alone to upkeep.
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Why in the world would you settle for a dusty man who can't even afford one of your messages? You give what I'm saying. You fill me. So what's like when you invest in yourself and that's really what this is all about.
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When you are investing in yourself, when you are love bombing yourself, when you are putting so much time, effort, energy and money into you and your growth and your confidence and your self development, what ends up happening? You don't settle for dumbness.
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It's a very similar concept to this video that I saw a few months ago. And it was a girl saying that she went and bought a Porsche. And she's like, you know, it's so interesting.
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After I went and bought this Porsche, now I'm going to Pilates. Now I'm doing this. I'm doing that. And I don't hang out in this place anymore. And basically everything she was doing was like, you know, pretty expensive to the average person, right?
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Why is that because herself concept upgraded once she bought that car? And this is not me saying you have to go and get surgery or you have to buy a luxury vehicle to reach that point. But what I am saying is that when you invest in yourself and it makes you feel good.
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You start feeling good, you start looking good, you start feeling like, okay, how can I keep up with this feeling? How can I continue to be around this type of vibe? Right? You start thinking of different places to hang out at because let's keep it so 100 here.
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When you operate that way, the whole world is going to cater to that for you. And I don't know why we're missing that. I don't know why we're pretending as though people aren't elevating themselves every single day with all of the personal development.
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You know what it's like? It's the same thing as going to school. Let's talk about it. Hold on. When you go to school, okay, you go to college, right? Some of us went to college. Maybe you get your associate's degree or your bachelor's, your master's. Oh, baby, your doctorate, forget about it.
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Maybe go to a trade school and in that trade school, okay, you get your license and then you pick up all these different certifications within your trade.
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Or maybe college wasn't the right route. Maybe trade school wasn't the right route, but you wanted to go get a certification and something else. So what do you do? You go and you find other certifications to help build your resume.
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Guys, I just completed a project management certification just because just because I like doing stuff. I just be doing shit. Okay, the amount of certifications that I have under my belt in various industries is actually really insane. I'm not going to lie.
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But do you honestly believe I'm inclined to applying for a job is paying $15 an hour. When I know my resume screams, I should be making $150,000 at minimum if I'm going to work for a company. Come on now. Let's let's be for real. Let's be so serious here.
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And this is not about arrogance, right? And it's not even necessarily about quote unquote entitlement, like some people like to say, this is just about being real about your credentials, right?
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Being real about your value, being real about your worth. So again, when you are constantly investing in yourself and again, it's not just about money either books, people, books, the more you read, the more you learn, even with the podcast that you listen to podcasts like this one, right?
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I think God often that I get so many messages regularly from you guys saying, you know what girl, I really, really enjoy your podcast. I learn a few things from your podcast. You made me feel like I can do whatever I want to do from your podcast.
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You don't understand how much those messages mean to me. Truly, it means the world to me when I get messages like that. And by you guys listening to stuff like this, whether it's my podcast or, you know, some of my other colleagues in the industry or, you know, just any podcast where you are working on personal development, right?
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Because if you're learning something, if something that somebody says clicks in your brain from whether it's my podcast or someone else's, you are learning something that is personal development, that is character development, that is an investment.
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You are investing your time in yourself to learn these things. You were investing your time listening to people who have done the reading, who have experienced life.
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You think I come on here and talk about all this because I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about. You think I'm just here just because no, I've done a lot of reading. I've lived a lot of life. I talk about some of my life experiences on here. Why because yes, I am a normal human being who
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has circumstances that aren't that favorable, you know, like, this is real life. But nevertheless, that's not going to stop me from feeling like, yes, I should be pouring into myself.
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And that is what I am encouraging you to do because the more you pour into yourself, whether that's emotionally, financially, academically, the more you pour into yourself, the more you start to allow yourself to do it.
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And then you start to outline yourself with the highest version of you. You want to be in that dream girl era, right? We talked about that earlier this year. You want that dream girl era, but you're not doing dream girl shit.
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So perhaps maybe we should be love bombing ourselves, truly investing in ourselves and the things that actually make us happy.
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Lately, I have been going on more hot girl walks than you could ever imagine the amount of hot girl walks and the amount of weight that I have been losing guys, I am down almost 30 pounds. Shout out to me, especially with the year I've been having truthfully, but I am down almost 30 pounds.
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And you want to know why this makes me feel so good that I'm down almost 30 pounds. I'll tell you why. Because the dream girl version of me, she's thinner. Yes, she's thinner. She has a nicer body than what I had before.
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And not to say I didn't have a nice body or whatever the case may be, I'm not dragging myself. But could I have looked better back then? Yes, absolutely. I think we all feel that way about ourselves sometimes.
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So yeah, I wanted to lose some weight and boom, I met her fact if I'm being honest, I said I wanted to lose 30 pounds this year. I had it on my vision board and boom, we're here. We're just about here. I'm like, what a pound away.
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But either way, my dream girl version of me is making a certain amount of money. And yes, we're working towards that. Thank God. But the dream girl version of me is making a certain amount of money. But she also looks a certain kind of way.
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And I got to look at myself in the mirror every single day, right? And I want to feel good about the person I'm staring back at. I want to look at me and say, damn, you know, life might be going to shit right now, but at least you find his help.
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Like life isn't that bad if you feel like you look good, you know, like if you don't look like your problems. And I learned that years ago, but if you don't look like your problems, life doesn't suck as much.
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And I don't care what anybody has to say about that. So this is your sign, your reminder to again, pour into yourself. I want you to find five things, okay?
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Five different things that would make you feel like you are truly investing in yourself. Truly.
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Because this is how we get into the feelings of worthiness and love is the highest vibrating emotion. So when you are showing yourself love, oh my goodness, oh my goodness. That's when things, you know, start pouring into you.
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So I want you to find five different ways that you can love bomb yourself, whatever that is, even if it's as simple as telling yourself, I am so beautiful five times in the mirror, even if it's as simple as that.
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Or if it's as simple as going and buying yourself some flowers or going and buying yourself that steak, getting a new book, investing in your manifestation journey, investing in coaching, investing in a class, investing in you.
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That's what love bombing yourself is about investing in your self. And if you have felt activated by this episode and this crazy download that I had today, I do invite you to work with me one on one.
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I have asked you guys what you all were interested in on Instagram and my, oh my, I got a lot of responses about my one on one programs. And I do have quite a few now because one thing about me, honey, I will always do my due diligence to create some things.
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There's been a lot of creation lately. So let's just go through it. I have released the overflow spell. So the overflow spell is great for those of you who need some fast cash. Okay, I'm talking real fast back in 2023. That was easily the hardest year of my life.
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And when I needed some cash, $2500, $1600, $5300, I got it all within a week, less than a week really within between 16 hours and 72 hours.
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So the overflow spell is amazing for that. It is an abundance ritual. And it is great for those of you who need your bills paid and you have no idea where that money is coming from point blank period.
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I also have released the overflow unblock, which is an intensive program. It is good for nervous system calibration. So if you are feeling stuck, if you were feeling like you have tried all the journaling, all the affirmations, all the things, that is an amazing intensive because with that, it takes me two seconds to figure out what exactly is blocking your wealth flow. And then we go ahead and create a seven day recalibration plan for you a seven day ritual.
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So that is available. I will link that in the description. And then I also have my wonderful one on one month long coaching programs that are between three and nine months, one of which I have open, which is high priestess activation. That is a three month program. So that is for the girls who see the vision.
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Right. So if you are in a space right now where you see where you want to go, let's say you want to hit your first 10k month, you want to hit your first 20k 50k month, like you're there, but you're not quite sure how to hold it. You're not quite sure how to get to that point because your nervous system is off and you're just not feeling it.
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Those are for the girls who see the vision. My other two containers, one is invite only and the other, I have not released yet. So we have see it, be it, become it.
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So the container where you are being the desire is called the cashmere code, which again, I have not released quite yet, just because I haven't just because I haven't, but it will be released soon.
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So the cashmere code is in the work and that is a four month container, very similar to high priestess activation. The difference between the two is with the cashmere code. You do get a wonderful VIP day with me and that one is definitely targeted towards business owners. If you are a high earning business owner, I'm talking multiple six figures. That is the container for you.
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And then I also have another invite only container, which is a nine month program and that one I don't just let anyone in that is for sure. But nevertheless, I have several one on one containers. And if you ever have questions about that, you can always reach out to me via the Instagram.
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Yes, I'm still operating both accounts, cashmere, or and my regular personal one, unquote, Instagram page as well.
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But nevertheless, that is my feel for today. And I will probably see you guys in another month.
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Like I said, if you have any questions, comments, concerns, you know, what if I meet and like always, I'll see you on the next one later.